Tarot spread for difficult, confrontational meetings
In tense times, when emotions run high, and outcomes cause harm, it can be helpful to know what you are walking into. Reflecting on what could be can proactively change how you intend to address a problem.
Draw 7 cards, and lay them intuitively.
- 1. My point of view
- 2. Their point of view
- 3. The balcony view of our interaction
- 4. Things not yet seen
- 5. The likely outcome I prefer
- 6. The likely outcome they prefer
- 7. The likely outcome of the situation
A sweetening jar for more harmonious outcomes
When the odds are stacked against you and you know someone may be unwilling to hear you or reason with you, a little sweetness can help.
You’ll need a jar, enough sugar to fill it about halfway, water (moon water is great if you have it), paper, a pencil or waterproof sharpie, and incense (I prefer frankincense or incense papers with frankincense as an ingredient). Do this during a full or waxing moon.
- Cleanse your space (ring a bell, light some rosemary, cast a circle - whatever works for you)
- Light the incense as an offering to your guides and ancestors of the highest intention. I like to verbally state, “I offer this to my guides and ancestors of the highest intention.”
- Fill the jar with sugar, then water.
- Carefully tear strips of paper, concentrating on the desired outcome, and write the name of the person whom you’d like to be sweet to you. I like to repeat “[Name], be sweet to me. Deliver kindness to me. Desire to be kind to me. Find yourself noticing what is good about me.”
- Once the name is written, fold it toward you three times, then drop it into the jar.
- If you feel like it needs recharging, leave under the light of the full moon, or light a candle on the jar and repeat any of the above incantations.
- I don’t like to mix my work and life sweetening jars, but once made, you can continue to add any name to a sweetening jar over time
Justice spell to encourage self-reflection of the offender
Being fired by a client can cost people their livelihood. Some clients abuse this power, using it as a threat to secure compliance rather than engage in constructive dialogue. Unfortunately, most of us are caught up in a capitalistic machine that is nearly impossible to exit. I’m convinced that many people need to take a good, hard look at themselves. This isn’t about harm. It’s about course correction. This spell is designed to do exactly that. I don’t think this ritual necessarily conflicts with a sweetening jar, but they may not be entirely compatible, so use your best judgment here. And more importantly, this isn’t designed for a narcissist, for whom self-reflection won’t mean much. This is better for a scenario where “hurt people hurt other people.”
You’ll need two small mirrors, twine, paper, a pen, black sealing wax or candle, and incense.
- Cleanse your space. You might also choose to light a black candle.
- Light incense. Depending on the situation, I have chosen to say something similar to “I offer this to the moon, that inner reflection of [NAME] may be brought into your light. That they have an undeniable vision of the harm that they have caused. That they grapple with the pain that they have caused to others.”
- Rip paper into a strip, and focus on your feelings and intention while doing so.
- Write their name on the paper, fold it away from you three times.
- Place the paper between two mirrors. Wrap them in twine. I like to say, “I bind you to see the truth of the harm you have caused.” Once wrapped, seal the edges with the sealing wax or wax from a black candle.
- You can store the mirror, if you like, but I prefer to bury it under an oak tree.
- If things turn around and you’d like to release this person, thank the mirrors and twine for their work. Undo the binding and dispose of the ingredients.
Journal prompts
Sometimes, you need to work through it. Write it out. Here are some prompts I’ve used when I’ve felt disempowered by a situation at work. This serves triple duty. An outlet to vent. An outlet to reflect. And an outlet that can help rewire your brain to move forward.
1. What lies have I internalized about this situation?
2. If I could rewrite this experience, what would it look like?
3. What does it mean to find my power?
4. If I were fully empowered in this situation, how would it be different?
It can be a rough corporate world out there. Let us never forget our power extends beyond what we say and do in meetings or emails.
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